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Relationships 101

Do I Have to Lose Me to Love You?

Some of us get so wrapped up in a relationship that we tend to lose ourselves. It happens slowly until it’s too late. We don’t realize that losing our Self is the ultimate cause of despair. When the relationship inevitably ends, it’s devastating, because we are lost.

The cause lies in our past. We lack autonomy because that task wasn’t completed by adulthood. We might seem to do fine on our own, but the…




Everything about good and bad relationships and how to better or leave them.

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Darlene Lancer

Darlene Lancer

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