In Sex-Not Until the 3rd Date

…at least

Sex is on the minds of men. This is an indisputable statement. Women know this. Women have been used by men. Women have been dumped by men after sex. These are three more statements that are indisputable. Let me add one more. If a man is going to use a woman for sex, the fact that she made him wait until date three, four or five won’t change that. Allow me to expound.

When a woman refuses to have sex on the first, second third date, that’s her prerogative and, from the mind of this writer, a decision that does not warrant scrutiny. It’s her body, it’s her mind, it’s her pride, etc. But when her rationale for waiting to do so is a fear that sex may be all he wants, or that he may not find her attractive or sexy, that, my friends, is where I see no logic.

For starters, a player is a player and the game can be fun. Translation: Her not putting out on the first couple dates will not normally dissuade a player. If anything, he’s going to stay in the chase until he gets it.

For seconds, if his lack of attraction to her or displeasure with how she performs sexually is going to make him walk, he will do so regardless of what point in their venture they have sex. You show me a woman hoping that her traits will overcome her self-identified shortcomings in the bedroom and I’ll show you a naïve woman. I would also say, specific to this, that one must love themselves first before going into the dating pool.

Let me reiterate, there are absolutely no reasons a woman should be scrutinized merely for wanting to wait. There are religious reasons for doing so. There are comfort and pride reasons for doing so. There are health reasons for doing so. But the idea that waiting will dissuade a player or an unhappy sexual partner holds no water.