How to Not be so Judgemental
On sitting with your own discomfort and leading with compassion
Creating the Habit of Constructive Thought: Being judgemental doesn’t make us bad people, but it does make us unhappy. Humans make judgments all the time, for better or for worse, in order to survive. Judgment is a filtering process. But what we’re talking about today is the non-useful kind of judgment: uncharitable thoughts towards others — the shitty kinds of thoughts that eat away at you. Negative judgments about others is an easy trap to fall into for a “quick hit” of superiority, but is it really worth it?
Here are a couple of tips to stop being so judgemental. First, catch yourself and call it out. We never know the road others have traveled, and the only real outcome of being judgmental is a poor reflection of our own character. It’s not worth the quick hit of satisfaction.
Secondly, remember you’re not right and others are not wrong. We’re all making choices based on the data we have available to us, whether we’re talking about parenting, diets, or haircuts.
Time to rework our reactions to connect rather than alienate. Not a bad way to kick off the new year, right?
For more strategies about squashing judgment and encouraging compassionate, constructive thinking, have a listen!
PS: This is the last episode of Republic of Freedom Radio! Thank you so much for being here, for your support, and for your openness. I’ll see you in the new year when I launch my new show.