How to get invited back

Besides checking out new restaurants, there is nothing I love more than sitting around my dining table eating good food and giggling with my favorite people. Dinner parties can be hit or miss, so here are a few ideas on how to make sure you get invited back to the good ones:

• Note the end time — It is guests’ responsibility to excuse themselves — the host should never have to ask you to leave. Don’t overstay your welcome. If the host looks tired and everyone has finished dessert, mention that you should head home because you have an early morning. If the host doesn’t enthusiastically try to convince you to stay, it’s time to go.
• Help with dishes — I always appreciate it when guests help me clear the table and wash dishes. However, when you’re picking up plates — please don’t stack them. Plates that are dirty on both sides are gross the clean. Also don’t start picking up plates until everyone is finished. You don’t want the slow eater to feel guilty for holding everyone up.
• Sit next to the rando — If the host invites someone that doesn’t know the rest of the group, the host is probably spending the night stressing over making that person feel comfortable. Help your host relax and have a good time by seating yourself next to the new person (if there aren’t assigned seats). If you’re the host, it’s a good idea to put every person in between someone they know well and someone new (thank you Heidi Roizen).
• Mention your allergies — No matter how well you know the host, you should always remind him/her about your food allergies. Even if the host doesn’t ask about eating restrictions, never hesitate to share the foods you don’t eat because you want to be an “easy guest”. It’s much less stressful for the host if you say something in advance.
• RSVP ASAP — The host will want to get a headcount as soon as possible to know how much food is needed and to invite others if there is space. Be a courteous guest and let the host know if you can come as soon as you figure out. Also, don’t wait until the last minute to accept an invite because you want to see if you get a better offer. If I have a hunch that my party isn’t my guests’ first choice, I definitely don’t want to waste a spot on them in the future.
• If you RSVP yes, GO — If you’re sick, no one wants you there (selfishly we’d all be wondering if you’re contagious), but don’t cancel if you’re just feeling lazy. The host probably put a lot of work into planning the night and invited you instead of other friends. Show your appreciation by showing up (on time). Also, you should immediately decline any invites you get later — once you’ve accepted an invite, you’re committed. Also make sure to add the event to your calendar so you don’t double book!