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Recently, I decided to gift a relative of mine with something. I planned to use it for myself, but since I already had more than enough of the items in question — and as a single mother, she doesn’t really have the luxury of enjoying nice things — I decided to let her have a couple of them.

Do you know what she did?

She “lost” them. More like left them laying around for somebody else to pick up and didn’t bother to put them up like she would any other item.

Do you know how that made me feel?

I felt disrespected and unappreciated. I was kind enough to gift her with something, and she was careless about it. Then she lied about still having the items, but I know she doesn’t. One may be accounted for, but the other is not in her possession.

Instantly I became heated, but you know what I realized?

It’s time for me to stop being so generous.

People (some of them, anyway) will never appreciate any nice gestures. They take you and the things you do for granted and there’s really nothing you can do to change them. But you can change how you interact with them.

I guess it’s frustrating because I’m known for having a big heart. Even if I’m down to my last, I’ll give it to someone who needs it. But as of NOW, that’s over and done with.

I deserve to have people in my life who appreciate the things I do for them, big or small. I deserve to have people who are grateful that I even think about them. I deserve to have people that won’t take advantage of my generosity and they are sincerely thankful that I chose to give to them.

And for the record, it’s not that I expect anything in return, but I was taught that when someone gives you something, you express gratitude and accept the gift. Accepting the gift means treating the item as if you bought it (or made it) on your own. Some people really don’t have this type of home training, and I feel sorry for them.

Needless to say, I won’t be giving anything else to this relative. I don’t care if it costs $5. Fuck her birthday. Fuck Christmas. She ain’t getting SHIT from me!

I refuse to be so quick to give and help out anyone, hence forth. I work hard for my money and to have someone disrespect a gift like that really turned me off. There’s no telling how many gifts I’ve given that people didn’t appreciate, and I guess they think it means nothing because “I can buy more.”

But fuck that.

Like I said, I deserve to have people in my life who appreciate the things I do for them, big or small.

And I’m sharing this story so that y’all can learn from this experience as well.

So givers, learn your limits because takers don’t have any.



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