RMlogo A simple guide on how to make a decision. About anything
RMlogo A simple guide on how to make a decision. About anything
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How to Make a Decision About Anything

When making a decision about anything, it is essential that you are “in faith” regarding that decision, which is why the most important question you will ever ask yourself when making a decision is, “Am I ‘in faith’ to (insert the thing you’re thinking about doing) ?”

Rick Thomas
Aug 27, 2015 · 11 min read

But whoever has doubts is condemned if he eats, because the eating is not from faith. For whatever does not proceed from faith is sin. — Romans 14:23

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  • Are you trusting the Lord to proceed forward in your decision?
  • Do you believe this is the right thing for you?
  • Is your hope in the Lord as you move forward with this decision?
  • Is your confidence resting in the Lord, which releases you to proceed in the thing that you want to do?

Case Study: Making a Decision

Jack and Jill are thinking about joining a new church. I asked Jack if he was in faith for this new adventure with a new church. The life of a Christian is born out of and proceeds from a life faith (Romans 1:17; Hebrews 11:6).

  • Our decision to marry is by faith.
  • Our decision to eat at that (restaurant) is by faith.
  • Our decision to not sin is by faith–you believe it is wrong to (insert sin option here).

Four-Legged Decision

Faith is like a stool upon which you sit. That stool has four legs: Canon, Community, Conscience, and Comforter. If you place yourself in a context where these four means of grace give you sound advice, you will probably be safe to move forward with what you want to do.

  1. Community — What do a few trusted, courageous, and wise friends say about what you want to do? (Proverbs 11:14)
  2. Conscience — What do you think about what you want to do? (Romans 2:14–15)
  3. Comforter — What does the Spirit of God say about what you want to do? (John 16:13)

Distancing Yourself From Truth

This deception has immediate and long-term results. The immediate result is you can get what you want. The long-term results are twofold:

  1. If you continue to work people and situations to accomplish your selfish goals, you will eventually harden your conscience, which will make it more difficult in the future for you to perceive God’s truth and direction for your life (Hebrews 3:7–8).
  1. Rationalization — Comparing what I did with others by minimizing the wrongness, while creating tolerance for doing what I want to do.
  2. Blaming — Rather than perceiving and acknowledging my wrongness, I blame others for what went wrong–I refuse to own my sin.
  1. Community — Can you humbly place your decision in the hands of trusted, wise, and courageous friends who will not automatically tell you what you want to hear?
  2. Conscience — Can you not only listen to what your conscience is telling you but will you respond to it–assuming your conscience is in line with God’s Word?
  3. Comforter — Can you honestly say you have not exchanged the truth of God for a lie because you have submitted your desires to scrutiny through the means of the canon of God’s Word, the community of God’s children, your conscience, and the Holy Spirit?

Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. — Romans 1:24

Expect Disappointment

One of the more interesting things I have seen about decision-making is after we make a decision and proceed in faith, we do not factor in future disappointment. It is like we forget how our life is a call to suffer (1 Peter 2:21).

O you of little faith, why did you doubt? — Matthew 14:31

Let me go ahead and state the obvious here: no matter what your decision is, after you move forward with your plans, you will be disappointed in some way, whether small or large.

Purposeful Freedom

Sometimes God gives us multiple options to choose from, none of which are necessarily bad options. It might not be wrong to eat at McDonald’s or Burger King or home. Decision-making does not have to be like an archer standing one-hundred yards from a target with one arrow trying to hit the bull’s eye.

  1. Community — Your friends weigh-in and they see no problem with either one.
  2. Conscience — Your conscience is free on the matter.
  3. Comforter — It appears there is no quenching or grieving of the Spirit with either choice (Ephesians 4:10; 1 Thessalonians 5:19).

Call to Action

  1. Are you sure the Lord wants you to do the thing you are thinking?
  2. Are you holding your desires loosely, while submitting them to others?
  3. Do you want to know the truth and are you humbly seeking answers–specifically from competent people, who do not always agree with you?
  4. Is your motive more about God’s glory than selfish desires? How do you know?
  5. How much does self-protection or self-preservation influence your decision-making? How much does foolish thinking influence your decision?

To the Premarital Counselor

There is one question that transcends all other matters in premarital counseling. It is this: “Are you sure, confident, or in faith that you are to marry this person?”

  • They may lose a job.
  • They may become bankrupt.
  • They may develop a lifetime disability,
  • They may discover a spouse is hiding a life-dominating sin.
  • They may have a miscarriage.
  • They may learn hurtful things about their spouse that they did not know while dating.
  • They will become older.
  • They will change.
  • They will not be the same people they were while dating.

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