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Seven Reasons a Person Will Not Change

Every person who comes to you for help is not always interested in being free from their problems. Just because they are sharing their trouble with you does not mean they want to change. This issue is a common occurrence, and there are reasons they do not change.

Rick Thomas
Mar 3, 2016 · 10 min read

For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? — Luke 14:28

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Reason #1 — I’m Problem-Centered

Reason #2 — It’s My Identity

And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. — 1 Thessalonians 5:14

Reason #3 — I Want the Quick Fix

If I can’t be instantly gratified and satisfied, then I’m not interested.

Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. — Luke 14:27

You can have what you want, but you will have to die first. (See John 12:24.)

Reason #4 — I Like My Sin

Reason #5 — I Fear Freedom

Reason #6 — I Like Attention

If my friends see how much better I am doing, they may leave me alone. I do not want to be alone. The loneliness of being alone is eating away at my soul. I am going to be measured and cautious about how I communicate how I am doing. I do not want to lose the attention I am getting right now. Their empathetic focus is all I have. It feeds my desire to be loved.

Reason #7 — I’m Not Honest

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Our mission is to help people by providing practical tools and ongoing training for effective living.