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LIFE LESSONS
One Small Thing
Just offer, it simply changes everything
People often think about making a difference through grand, sweeping gestures. But sometimes, the most meaningful way to help is to ask someone, “What’s one small thing I can do to help you today?”
This question is powerful in its simplicity. It acknowledges that the person might carry invisible burdens while respecting their agency to identify their needs. Maybe they need help carrying groceries or someone to walk their dog when they feel under the weather. Perhaps they need someone to listen for a few minutes without judgment.
When my husband died, the choruses of “Let me know if you need anything” were loud and strong. Most of those people have disappeared. My friend Beth Ann texted me every Thursday evening for over 20 weeks: “I’ll be stopping by your house around 9:00 tomorrow morning. What would you like me to bring you?”
I usually typed back, “A bagel.” Once, I asked for celery sticks stuffed with peanut butter. That’s exactly what she brought. She is my dearest friend, and sometimes we barely said a word — but she did not leave until I ate.
By asking about “one small thing,” we make the offer manageable for both parties. It’s not overwhelming for the person being asked, and it’s something we…
