The Side Chick Thesis
In an ideal world, as a lot of women will point out to you, the common setup of a romantic relationship involves a guy (the boyfriend a.k.a zaddy), a girl (the girlfriend a.k.a *insert your choice word*) and emotions, or feelings.
Thing is, we now live in a world where people exchange nudes, the closet door is wide open and more people are starting to think for themselves. Consequentially, today’s iteration of an ideal relationship setup is very much different from the status quo of yesteryear.
Cultural dynamics now support — and maybe even encourage — many other relationship types. Today, there is ‘zoning,’ ‘friends with benefits’ and, for the purpose of this article, ‘side-chicks.’
So, we’ve established that it’s a new world with new paradigms. That means conventional protocol when it comes to relationships has changed drastically. It is relative, now more than ever.
Some people are probably triggered by this entire ‘side-chick’ idea but let’s consume this with the stew of objectivity and set aside all morsels of sentiment.
These days’ women complain about various issues when it comes to their relationships. ‘He doesn’t give me enough attention’, ‘He’s not romantic’, ‘Dating is too complicated’ et cetera.
The way I see it, a lot of women want all the attention, romance, sex, affection and the ‘presents/profit’ that might come with relationships without any of the tedium or compromises that come with having it that good.
However, there are select women who would rather have that but in much smaller doses. Truth is, there are some women whose requirements as per the male gender and/or relationships fit the side-chick bill perfectly.
There are some giant questions hovering over this setup though, like: Should any woman be a side-chick? Is it convenient? Does it work? Is it downgrading? Can any fulfillment be found in such an arrangement?
First of all, I don’t think being a side-chick is necessarily downgrading. Not if it’s a mutual agreement at least. I know someone is probably thinking ‘Why would anyone want to be a side-chick?’ Well, believe it or not, not every woman wants to be the main chick. True story.
Some aren’t ready to admit it, others give it different connotations. But the point is there are some women who would rather be side-chicks than be in a full blown relationship. And there could be various reasons behind that: career, emotional availability, sexual capabilities, etc.
Besides, it’s convenient: you don’t have to suspect him, you don’t expect more than you get (i.e. no disappointments), you have more time to yourself (academics, work, pursuing a hobby etc) and the best part, freedom.
Freedom to do as you please, freedom from emotional stress, freedom from jealousy (which is just a wasteful emotion, btw) and so on. In fact, you don’t even have to go horny for long (yes, I said it!). It’s hard to deny that there are upsides to being a side-chick.
Still, that doesn’t mean I am in any way suggesting that being a side-chick should be your next ambition (you’d have to be another kind of retarded to think that, of course).
Obviously, if you can’t have a relationship where emotions don’t lead the way, this isn’t for you. If you can’t do without the full attention of your partner, then this also isn’t for you. If you believe in romance and all the basic tenets of dating, this also isn’t for you.
But if the side-chick thesis works for you please go for it. You can have fun, enjoy your life and do what makes you happy without the strain of committing to a full relationship. Just because our society frowns at it doesn’t mean it isn’t functional or satisfying.
Don’t dull yourself.
