Insecurities and Us
“Why are we still so insecure? Don’t know what we running from” These words have been extracted from Sauti sol’s sensational song ‘Insecure’. I must admit this song hit a nerve. With all the things I have been able to achieve in my life, why do I continuously feel insecure about myself? Why do I constantly doubt myself? What is the root cause of my insecurities? These are some questions that we all need to spend some time thinking about.
At times I look at a mirror and wonder, is it possible that another human being can have feelings for me? Words of affection bestowed on me face constant scrutiny for they all seem like lies. Does he love me as he says he does or is it just sex he wants? Does she love me or is it just my money that she loves? Trust becomes a precious commodity accorded hesitantly and to very few people. It becomes hard to accept people as they are without expecting them to have ulterior motives. When we do not pay much attention to our insecurities, they may end up affecting our relationships with others. Probably it is the reason for my many failed relationships however that’s a discussion for another day. Forming strong bonds becomes hard as we are constantly in a state of worry that people will leave us.
There are people in this world who just set the bar of existence too high. These individuals may have faces and smiles that warm the soul and bodies that look like Almighty took a longer time to create them with a geometrical set for perfect edges and angles. With no flaw visible, they seem to have been blessed with a perfect life. We begin to question our looks and the status we hold in society. We then either make them a part of our lives so that we may bask in their perfections or distance ourselves from them for fear that we cannot match up to them. We develop a sense of worthlessness and inferiority when in their presence. It’s at this point that we need to remind ourselves of all our blessings.
During this pandemic period, many people remain transfixed to their gadgets. A simple journey through Instagram becomes a depressing ordeal. Our phones become plastered with pictures upon pictures of other individuals living their best lives. Expensive clothes, drinks, jewelry, and vehicles are all that we see from people trying to portray a lavish lifestyle. We are left to concede that we may never be strong enough, brave enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, rich enough to satisfy all the expectations of our society.
Many if not all those who seem to be living life on the fast lane are either broken or tormented within. The pictures mask their insecurities by creating a false sense of magnificence. We slowly become too concerned with the number of likes that we create a false persona to gain the admiration of all. Some women easily convince themselves that they can never be beautiful enough and become fully dependent on makeup. Some men become convinced that they are not rich enough thereby resorting to corrupt practices or theft. We do all this and more in an attempt to maintain the persona we have created on our social media platforms.
Our insecurities render us weak all over. In an instant, we become utterly unable to utilize some if not all our sensual capabilities. We immediately become our own worst enemy and loudest critic. The solution often at times resides within us. We however need external help to guide us, a voice of reason of sorts. Some are lucky enough to have good friends who often at times do the best to talk them out of allowing their insecurities to dictate their decisions.
Are we truly aware of our insecurities and our fears? Will we choose to confront our insecurities, or will we run from them? Are we able to share our insecurities with those closest to us? Will we struggle alone as we have done in the past or will we come to accept help from our close friends? Figure out what you are insecure about and mentally prepare yourself to overcome it. Do not let your fears and insecurities prevent you from actualizing your potential. Even with your flaws, you are an important part of this society. We need to also come to terms with the fact that not everyone is out to get us. We need to learn to trust that there are people who will love us for who we are and not what we have to offer.
