How We Transition Is How We Live

Change is inevitable, deal with it.

Ryan Dimalanta
4 min readAug 3, 2020
Photo by Max Felner on Unsplash

Life is a series of cycles.

It’s constantly transitioning from one point to another; place to place, person to person, moment to moment.

It’s never stagnate, never consistent, always changing, revolving around frame of time that stops only when we’re dead.

Yet we’re constantly searching for consistency in our lives. Picking careers, partners, friends, that we hope will provide some sort of normal; some sort of status quo by which we can feel safe, comfortable, able to live the way we want.

But the reality is that we’re searching for normal amongst an ever-shifting sea of change. We are born, we experience, we learn, and we grow, transitioning into the versions of ourselves we deem best. And we continue this cycle until our last breath. In such a lifetime, what’s normal?

Normal is change.

How We Transition Is How We Live

I’m in the midst of another transition. This time it’s a transition to a place I’ve never been before, New York City, a place far from the conservative sunny Southern California town I grew up in.

It’s scary being on the verge of another chapter in my life. It’s something that I’ve been…

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Ryan Dimalanta

Father, husband, freelance writer and mental health advocate