How to Seem Like You Always Have Your Sh*t Together

For those of us who don’t — which is everyone

Brianna Wiest
Dec 18, 2018 · 7 min read
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It’s hard to nail down exactly what it means to “have your shit together,” but you always know when you meet someone who does.

These people are functional and competent, but never pretentious or elitist. They make their beds and do their jobs and always seem to be level-headed about all the nonsense the rest of us conflate into huge crises.

No matter what your personal goals are, at the root of them all, you just want to have your shit together too.

But, while this might be hard to believe, the truth is that nobody really has it all together—not entirely, not all the time. But aspiring to function well in your life, own personal responsibility, have real diplomacy and social grace, a healthy temperament, and other similar traits is definitely noble, if not crucial, to being well-received by the world.

Therefore, here is your official cheat sheet to getting your shit together… or at the very least, convincing everyone else you do.

1. Have a Uniform Style

2. Don’t Flaunt Weaknesses

3. Stop Oversharing

4. Keep Things Clean

5. Assume What You Say in Private Is Actually Public

6. Minimize Drama

7. Talk About Things, Not Other People

8. Be Clear About Who You Are

9. Don’t Act Like an Authority When You’re Not

10. Keep Your Composure

11. Stop Complaining

12. Have Principles

13. Receive Help When You Need Help

14. But Remember You’re Responsible for You

15. Compliment Others

16. Organize Your Paperwork, Clean Your Linens, and Know How to Cook At Least One Meal

17. Be Aware of Your Finances

18. Know Your Limits

19. Stop Thinking Everyone’s Thinking About You—They’re Not

20. Keep It Simple

Most importantly, remember that the point of getting your shit together is to make your life easier and more enjoyable—not to impress anyone else. But like most anything else, getting your shit together is a matter of faking it until you make it, and this is the best place to start.

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