The Evolution of the Conjugal Visit
While serving a 25-year-to-life sentence, Ivié De Molina had a four-night honeymoon in a trailer
It had been 18 years since Ivié De Molina had been with a man. Arrested on her 28th birthday for murder, robbery, and kidnapping, she is serving a 25-year-to-life sentence at Bedford Hills Correctional Facility, a women’s maximum-security prison in Westchester, New York. Ivié posted an ad on the pen-pal site Write-A-Prisoner.com and received mostly disappointing offers from prospective men. (One fellow wanted her to send him her pubic hair.) Just before her ad was about to expire, Ivié received a letter from a dashing Canadian who seemed too good to be true. After 11 months of visits, letters, and phone calls, Ivié and that dashing Canadian, Stefan, were married. Six months later, after being approved by government officials in Albany, the couple spent their four-night, five-day honeymoon in a trailer on Bedford Hills prison property. In her self-published account of the whirlwind romance, 25 to Love: A True Pen-Pal Fairytale, Ivié quips about the high-octane romp: “9 1/2 Weeks has nada on [our] 4 Nights & Five Days, absolutely nothing.”
In the prison visiting room, which resembles a high school cafeteria, Ivié walked me through a typical trailer visit. She and Stefan have been married for six years…
