Protecting Our Daughters Does Not Mean Acting Like We Own Their Bodies
Women don’t need us to act as the gatekeepers of their sexuality
My first child was a beautiful baby girl. I was a young father, and shocked to find that a large percentage of people — regardless of gender — would ask with a wink and a nudge what I was going to do when my daughter eventually started dating.
My answer was, has been, still is, and always will be, the same: I’ll be happy that she found someone in whom she is interested, and I’ll wish her success in her relationship(s).
What young women really need is for us to genuinely and completely embrace and support the idea that the rights to a person’s body belong solely to that individual.
That seems pretty obvious and elementary, or it should, but that’s not the response those asking me expected. It’s also not the response I heard from so many of my peer fathers.
Too often we romanticize the idea of the overly-protective father who cannot stomach the thought of “his little girl” dating. We’re amused by, and thus we perpetuate, the stereotype that he should be driven to temporary insanity and threaten violence at even the notion that his daughter may choose to engage in consensual sex.
