Julia Presnyakov
Dec 16, 2018 · 3 min read

An inner debate. Would I be able to really become an insider? and what does it even mean?

Over time, we accumulate many forms of beliefs on different subjects.
Our beliefs, in some manner, don’t really represent who we are.
If we stop for a second and ponder this issue, would we be able to point out when and how was that belief formed in your mind?

Many of us follow trends - But have you stopped and considered:
“What is a trend?
Why do we follow a certain trend?
What makes us active and engaged in that specific trend?”

A trend usually means “a general development or change in a situation or in the way that people are behaving.”
So there is a specific trend, it might be a fashion trend or social media trend — but why do we begin to follow it? Mostly, we get affected by our surroundings and inner circle. We want to be similar to people we like and admire. We look for others’ approval and appreciation of our choices, and the best way is to be like them.

When I notice that my idol or my best friend wears a particular item of clothing because it is what is “in” right now, suddenly I want to have that particular item.

If I were a trend follower, then when Pantone, a color making company, announced that the color trend for 2018 is ultraviolet, I’d most likely go and purchase all purple patterned and colored clothes. Or, I would have designed graphics using ultraviolet color’s theme and patterns.
Solely because, that is the trend, that is what is “in” right now.

It’s funny, at least to me, but a trend can also shape a language’s slang.
In South Korea, young people refer to certain groups as “outsiders” when that group is not aware of all the common slang idioms’ and words’ meaning, whereas there are people who belong to the “insiders” group, the trendsetters.

NCT 127 (Korean boy band) teaches Korean slang || Vanity Fair

People like to be part of a pack. Pack means “a group, set, or collection of something.” People are very social and like to belong to a certain group. When we a feel like an “outsider”, we start to wonder why. So we try to find a way “to belong”, or be a part of other groups.

How do we adapt to other groups? We either learn their vocabulary or wear their clothes. One of the most common way in is through the SNS = social network services. On SNS, we examine how others talk and dress and begin to do so as well. The “others” refer to the group of people we want to be part of. That certain group will welcome us only if we accept its beliefs and become its “insider”.

The question that keeps bothering me is: “Do I really like that specific trend?” Or “am I just afraid to be an outsider?”
When do you know that your actions are defined by your set of beliefs and not by the group that follows or sets a trend?

Of course, there are people who would prefer not to belong to a certain group and to be left alone, being an “outsider”.

Nevertheless, there is an inner dilemma.
I want to belong, but I don’t want to change myself in the process.
Is that inner transformation needed? Will I still be myself?

Sapere Aude Incipe

Sapere Aude means Dare To Be Wise. This publication is a place for individual thinkers where ideas are free to be discussed, criticized and debated. We all feel lost in life sometimes and want to know more about ourselves and the world. Let’s find the answers together.

Thanks to 🎥 Heidi The Flamingo

Julia Presnyakov

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A poet ( IG — @misaeng_91) with a wandering heart.

Sapere Aude Incipe

Sapere Aude means Dare To Be Wise. This publication is a place for individual thinkers where ideas are free to be discussed, criticized and debated. We all feel lost in life sometimes and want to know more about ourselves and the world. Let’s find the answers together.

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