Understand your emotions, Understand yourself.
The emotions we feel and the words we speak always have two meanings. The emotion we felt and the one that others interpret; in case of the words, it’s the words we meant to say and the words we say.
Some things like these may seem trivial but have large implications sometimes. Our emotions and the words we speak in many situations are many times influenced by something completely different or situation irrelevant to the moment. This can be related to having not very good emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is nothing but understanding our own emotions and so of others, segregating them by putting them in correct drawers, and efficiently using them when and where needed to appropriately influence our behaviour.
Sometimes we can not express what we feel. The reason is not always fear and lack of confidence. Sometimes we just can not find appropriate words, and we often end up messing the things by saying something we did not mean to. It’s always best to not say anything when you can’t find a proper way of putting it. But it many times create fear of not getting another opportunity to say it. In such a situation, we must understand our emotions well and know what exactly is that we want to say. And if the reason is the lack of confidence, many times fear causes to lose confidence, the best way to gain confidence may be to overcome the fear by facing it.
Emotions are many times influenced by other emotions. Anger can be said to be the most common example of this, we often express anger to the person we are not even angry with. It is the thing experienced by almost everyone. It is one of many things we always regret later. But it is sometimes too late to apologize. Now, this is the situation where one may not get another opportunity to say something they wanted to.
Anger is also popular as the cause of misunderstanding; when something is said, and something different is understood. This may seem to be a misunderstanding when it is actually misspoken words creating the problem. Like confidence can be gained by facing the fear, misunderstandings can be overcome by choosing not to speak when you are in a disturbing state of mind. It’s always better to not say something than saying it in a wrong way.
While many other things may influence our emotions and what we speak, these are the most common ones experienced and faced by almost all of us. One way to understand your emotions may be to understand yourself first. Give yourself some time and ask a few questions to self about what you are feeling, why are you feeling it, what caused you to feel in such a way, and where your emotion will lead you.
Similarly, it’s always best to think before you speak. Always ask a few questions to self before you speak about what are you about to speak, how are you about to say it, how will it affect another person for you may not really know what is in someone’s mind, ask yourself if it can be said later, also how will it affect you, what emotions will it trigger in you.
Emotions and words though being the reason for our problems if not dealt well, themselves are the solution to the problems, provided they are understood well.
Simple things like emotions and words that have a much bigger role to play in our lives, often themselves hold a shadow of future events.
