No matter who you get along with, remember these three human weaknesses
No matter who you get along with, remember these three human weaknesses
Life is like a wooden barrel, the volume is determined by the shortest board.
But, how can we optimize the shortcomings of life? Not only relying on one’s own transformation but also relying on the model of “people helping others”.
Human nature has weaknesses, which are things that need to be overcome in oneself, and things that can be used for oneself in the social field. As the saying goes, when viewed horizontally, it becomes a ridge and the side becomes a peak.
If you can clearly see the three weaknesses of human nature, you can improve your popularity and optimize your circle.
01
When you meet a selfish person, you need to empathize.
A politician said something like this: “There is no one who does not love his parents, but he does not consider other people’s parents; everyone loves his own children, but he does not consider other people’s children.”
In life, we will encounter such situations.
Two children quarreled, and the parents of child A rushed over, no matter what happened, to protect their own child, then yelled at child B, and even found the parents of child B, making a big fuss.
Two middle-aged people, sending their parents to the hospital, quarreled because of the queuing problem. Everyone hopes that their parents will be registered first and cured first. But they didn’t take into account that people who are sick are the ones to take care of.
There are also some people who love their own family members, they desperately resist and belittle other people’s family members; they love themselves desperately, even if they hurt others because of it.
As a human being, always get used to being self-centered. If such a thing happens to you, don’t get angry, and don’t take revenge on the other party. Instead, look at the problem from the other side’s point of view.
If you meet someone who is sick, think about how anxious and unsettling it is to be sick. When you open your mouth to chat with him, you will have empathy and compassion.
“The sage establishes teachings so that they can be extended and extended”, this ancient saying tells us to treat others with kindness and understand others. In this way, many verbal disputes can be avoided, and the attitude of the other party can be corrected.
“Stretch out your hand and don’t hit a smiling face”, that’s what it says. If you can understand the other party and express friendship, how can the other party have the nerve to hurt you? It’s impossible not to shake hands and make peace.
It is difficult to force others to understand you. When you take the initiative to understand the other party, the other party will think differently, thus forming a situation of shaking hands and making peace.
02
When encountering greedy people, you can quietly induce them.
“Man dies for money, the bird dies for food”, if a person is not greedy at all, it seems impossible. Only smart people will restrain their greed.
I have seen such a story.
There is a group of monkeys who can dance to music after being tamed. Some children felt jealous when they saw that the monkey danced better than themselves, and the monkey snatched their “applause”.
When the monkey danced, the child took out the chestnut. The monkey stopped and happily gnawed on chestnuts. No matter how the trainer yelled, the monkey became disobedient.
After being yelled at a few times, the monkey began to resist, causing the trainer to lose his tools. People roared with laughter.
From the story, we can see two truths: the child is very greedy, so he has enmity with the monkey trainer; the monkey is very greedy, and he gave up the current things for the chestnut.
Is there a win-win way?
It is different if the child cooperates with the monkey trainer. They can form a team, thus winning more applause, and reflecting the harmony between man and nature.
Of course, we can also observe from the opposite side. If you encounter a strong opponent, you have to subdue him. Don’t be rough, but learn to “induce”.
For example, you are the owner of a supermarket, and there is a supermarket opposite. If you want to win business, there are two ways: give profits to the masses, attract more customers, and increase sales; avoid the products that the other supermarket sells well, and gradually become two different types of supermarkets to avoid conflicts of interest.
Inducing others is not to let the other party fall into the trap of interests, but to let your own interests help more people, and you can even use this method to impress the other party.
Relatives and friends are very greedy, you should not directly refute them, but give them some help when they are in trouble, and use love to influence them; when the other party is greedy, keep a distance so that they cannot be caught.
Greed is human nature, it is difficult to completely correct it, but it can be corrected repeatedly. Steer it in the right direction.
03
When you meet someone who tries to be brave, you think that “everything goes against its limits”.
Competitiveness is the weakness of human nature.
Many people want to be the number one local tyrant in the world, to reflect their wealth and status, and to show their image. But social reality does not allow them to do so.
Is there a way to stop others from being competitive?
Politicians give us answers with stories.
In the past, people believed in ghosts and gods, and wizards became everyone’s idols. Some people who don’t know the truth build temples and let wizards live a good life in them.
Wizards and rogues have teamed up to do deception everywhere.
King was very worried and sent people to hunt down the wizard. People think that the king is too domineering, which is to curb the spirit of the people and at the same time, the drought and so on counted on the head of the king of Chu.
The minister said: “Your Majesty, you have no way to block everyone’s thinking, and you cannot stop the wizard from becoming powerful. You can only obey them, make the wizard powerful to the extreme, and then dig your own grave.”
The king suddenly realized that he invited the wizard to the palace, and let the wizard calculate everything to see how it would end. Over and over again, the wizards’ predictions made more and more mistakes. People began to laugh at the wizards and no longer believed in ghosts and gods.
“Don’t you want to be strong?” I will make you stronger and stronger until you lose control.
Remind others with the principle that things are always reversed, and they will be grateful; let those who do not repent continue to become stronger, and in the end, they will suffer and get the lessons they deserve.
You take the initiative to defend the weak and reflect the strength of the opponent. Not only can you deal with personal connections, but you can also protect yourself.
04
“The Weakness of Human Nature,” wrote: “You should treat others how you want others to treat you.”
If you show your weakness to contain others, then you will be contained by others. If you restrain yourself, let the other party’s strengths play out, and let the weaknesses be corrected, then you can become a tall person and be respected by others.
By making good use of your own wisdom, you can use the weak to control the strong, you can also eliminate the strong and support the weak, you can also balance the strong and the weak, and you can use the strength to support the weak. Each has its own merits.
All in all, the world will treat you only when you are healthy.
