When people reach middle age: be upright, be ruthless, be firm in your words, and be quick in your hands
When people reach middle age: be upright, be ruthless, be firm in your words, and be quick in your hands
When a person reaches middle age, the greatest success is not only to be rich, but also to have a decent family.
However, how to run a family? You should think deeply, after all, middle-aged people are the backbone of a family.
It is said: “Arranging one’s family is cultivating one’s body; governing a country must first order one’s family.”
It is not difficult to find that if a person manages himself well, the family will be better; when all the families are better, the country will prosper. It can also be said that managing a family is similar to managing a country.
once upon a time, the kingdom was in the dominant position for a long time. When the king was in power, his friend was the main adviser, and he contributed a lot to the prosperity of the kingdom.
Someone commented on his friend: “Save the people and the common people without bragging about it, but do nothing to make up for the three lords, and king’s friend is a gentleman; the country has no way, and the gentleman is ashamed and polite. If the country is extravagant, show it with frugality; present.”
When we are confused, we can find the answer from the interaction between king and his friend.
To be a human being, take history as a mirror and learn four ways to live: be upright, be ruthless, speak steadily, and be quick.
01
Be upright: cultivate yourself.
For a while, king was weak and felt listless. He said that a large sacrificial activity should be prepared, and all the officials should come to pray for blessings and adjust the body.
His friend said: “As a monarch, when praying for blessings, you must consider the lives of the people; pay attention to diet; the real sacrifice is for the officials to repent, not to ask for blessings. If it costs a lot, it will not work.”
Afterwards, king canceled his plan to go to Fudi to play, and controlled the number of fishing and hunting.
The ancients said: “I examine myself three times a day.”
When you reach middle age, if you can correct yourself and grow up straight, you can stand upright and truly support a blue sky for your family.
There is a saying that when you are upright, you are not afraid of the oblique shadow. When middle-aged people are upright, children will learn well. This is the relationship between the upper beam and the lower beam.
An aunt, in order to encourage her son to study, took the initiative to pick up books and develop simultaneously with her son. After auditing at the university for three years, he and his son were admitted to graduate school.
She said: “My son is going to take the postgraduate entrance examination, so I want to accompany him, urge each other, at least have a companion.”
Comparing this aunt, you will find that many parents are forcing their children to read books, but they never read books themselves, and have not played the role of teaching by example.
If you want your family to prosper more and more, don’t worry about what your family members do, but constantly correct yourself.
02
Be ruthless: sacrifice love for money.
The king’s wife passed away, and the king has been guarding her all the time. She hasn’t eaten for three days, and she doesn’t want to leave. She doesn’t care about state affairs.
His friend said: “I invited a famous doctor who has the ability to bring the dead back to life. Please avoid the king and let the famous doctor try.”
King believed it and walked away. His friend immediately arranged for the burial. When King came back to his senses, everything was in place, and he had to let go of his emotions and deal with major issues.
Some people say: “Children love each other, but heroes have shortness of breath.”
When people reach middle age, they should take their feelings lightly and pay more attention to economic issues. After all, without income, the family will be unsustainable, and life will have no future.
There are many examples of people leaving their families and going out to earn a living as soon as they gritted their teeth.
All “hard-heartedness” is for the better days in the future. People who really understand you will understand: “Cruel heart is true love.”
When people reach middle age, they use dreams as horses and live up to their youth. Don’t have too much “reluctance, can’t let go, can’t break”. Excess love, endless entanglement, and dinners of eating and drinking must be cruelly cut off.
03
Be firm in your words: do what you say.
The king asked his friend, how to find a virtuous person?
His friend said: “Observe what he does, and then evaluate. People who like to talk about rhetoric, like to criticize and slander, certainly do not have good conduct.”
Clearly, actions speak louder than words. If words and deeds are not consistent, and one does not do what one says, one’s reputation will be ruined, thus losing the trust of others. There is no one around to help, and life is difficult.
Franklin said: “If you make a mistake, you may stand up immediately; if you lose faith, you may never be able to recover.”
It’s one thing for things to fail, it’s another for things not to start. When you work together with others, since you have said it, you must do it. If you really can’t do it, you should have an echo.
For example, you are on a business trip with your colleagues, and you agreed to wait somewhere at nine o’clock, but you are late. Colleagues will blame you, and along the way, both of you are unhappy. If you miss an appointment, your co-workers will report your behavior to your boss, and the consequences will be worse.
If you can’t do it, don’t say it in the first place. Talking less and doing more is what middle-aged people should do.
04
Be quick: act decisively.
King was going to build a big house, and the workers didn’t stop even in the windy and windy days.
The king and his friend were drinking and said, “Oh, the wind and rain have come, the crops have been ruined, there is no harvest, and the wives and children are scattered.”
King immediately understood that the farming season should not be delayed because of house repairs, so he immediately ordered to stop the construction work.
There are many examples of his friend preventing Qi Jinggong from living a luxurious life and wrong government orders. Most of the suggestions have been adopted, and immediate results.
When people reach middle age, remember a sentence: “Shoot when it’s time to do it, and rush to Kyushu.”
Opportunity comes, you hesitate for a while, and then lose it; family conflicts, if you let them go, the family will be in chaos; if you make a mistake, if you don’t correct it immediately, the mistake will be added to the mistake.
Middle-aged people, most of them have the “decision-making power” of the family. If you are not decisive, you will confuse everyone.
There is a saying: “Only the leader of the horse is the follower.”
Middle-aged people are the protagonists of the family and the pillars of society. Your words and deeds are the social image and the hope of the family, and there should be no deviation.
From now on, while obverse ourselves, obverse people at the same time. To obverse others, obverse ourselves first.
If the body is upright, the personality will be noble; if the heart is cruel, life will be more powerful; if the speech is stable, the right to speak will be grasped;
When a person reaches middle age, everything can be done, and the name is justified and natural.
