Best Advice for a Broken Heart

Following your heart might not be your best option

Joliane Martel
Nov 5 · 2 min read
Photo by Yuris Alhumaydy on Unsplash

few years ago, I was madly in love. In love with him, but also with the idea of love. I loved being loved and I loved loving him.


It all seemed so great, too great…

And one day, he was gone, gone for good. When he left, he took parts of me that I’ll never get back. Let’s be honest, it felt like everything he left me was my body, empty.

He took my joy, parts of my past, plans for our future. He took my ability to love, to trust, to feel. He took it all.

Like every night, I was laying in bed, crying in silence, wondering when the pain would fade away. Then, my mom came in and what she said to me that night changed my life.

She said:

“Sweetie, I know I’ve always told you to listen to your heart, but right now, your heart is like a black hole. That means if you keep listening to it, it will consume you and you’ll lose yourself in the darkness of it. Right now, I’m telling you to listen to your head, because it knows how beautiful and worthy you are. your head is going to tell you that you can get through this, that you are stronger than this, that you deserve better and you will learn and grow from it.” Janie Chouinard

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Management student who’s trying to figure out what this whole adult life is all about, while finding my purpose and my place in this crazy wild world.

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