People don’t pay enough attention to words. They say it doesn’t matter if you call an apple ‘apple’ or ‘pear’. As long as it looks like an apple, we know it’s an apple. Maybe this is why we’re so unhappy in our relationships. If we don’t call things by their names, we end up confused about something as simple as, for example, being ‘in love’.
I’m tired of hearing ‘It’s just that I love him so much’ when what they really mean to say is ‘he doesn’t appreciate me’ or ‘you love me, but you don’t love me enough’. Loving too much doesn’t exist. Neither does loving enough or not enough. There’s being ‘in love’ and ‘not in love’.
We invent a thousand useless names for something so simple and pure, but then we allow ourselves the luxury of saying that an apple’s name doesn’t matter if it looks like an apple.
I reckon life is complicated sometimes. But I also think we make it more complicated than necessary. Why cannot we interact with each other with a bit more of transparency? Talk about what we really want? What about a real honest conversation, even if it makes you feel more vulnerable than what you are used to?
The most important thing in all human relationships is conversation, but people don’t talk anymore, they don’t sit down to talk and listen.
I’ll tell you something: if you can call an apple ‘pear’, you’ll end up eating a pear instead of an apple. And the sooner you realize it, the better.