Parental Attachment: The Cause of Child-Adults

Most parents want the best for their children. Yes, there are some irresponsible ones, but the majority at least have good intentions. However, good intentions alone do not translate to good parenting; these are two different things.

Before you jump on me, what qualifications do I have to discuss this topic? I have survived my own struggles for freedom with my parents and witnessed my spouse go through his. As parents, my husband and I have battled our inner demons to step back and let our son breathe.

In addition, I am a spiritual life coach. My job requires me to study, observe, and understand how the human mind works, which is what parenting is all about. So, I do know what I’m talking about.

A Leaf From My Life

My husband and I noticed a pattern of errors made by Asian (Indian and Chinese) parents. In their attachment, they overprotect their children through 12th grade. And then, they let the children go to college unprepared to handle independence. To their dismay, they often see their youth becoming lazy, reckless, disoriented, and sometimes even diseased.

So, when my son became a preteen, my husband and I slowly began to back off and let him handle his own life. As expected, many things happened. His study habits declined, and he abandoned many…