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5 More Sexy Questions to Get to Know Your Lover
With my answers, for fun, and why you should ask to begin with
Anyone who’s been reading my work for awhile can tell you, the number one thing I advocate for in relationships is more communication. Recently, I shared seven questions you can ask your lover. The point is not to make things awkward or unseemly, but to get to know one another better.
When it comes to sexual education, most of us weren’t taught much at all beyond the basics. Here’s how to use a condom. The penis goes in the vagina. Abstinence is the only guarantee not to get pregnant.
How horrible to think this is how we began our education when it comes to one of the most beautiful things we can do with ourselves and others.
Sex is so much more than that. There’s emotion, or not. There’s the pleasure we derive from the act itself, the foreplay, and even just talking about it. So why wouldn’t we want to have ongoing conversations with those we’re having sex with (or want to!) about what turns us on?
I’ve had readers question why you would want to ask your partners these things.
What if it gets weird? What if you turn them off? I’ve even had a mansplain to me they should just “do it, but do it slowly and get conscious feedback from the…