Dear Elle, Is Polyamory Difficult?
It seems like it would be a lot of work
Elle Beau answers your questions about sex, love, and non-traditional life.
Dear Elle,
Although you have a lot of good things to say about polyamory, and it seems like you have a lot of fun, I think it’s got to be pretty difficult at times. One relationship is hard enough to maintain, but you have several going on at once. How do you make that work? Is it really worth the effort?
Sincerely,
Single-minded
Dear Single-minded,
Traditional marriage paradigms say that you live with your mate and your whole lives revolve around each other. Poly allows us to not do that and still have an abundance of love and connection in all kinds of interesting combinations. It also allows those relationships to find their natural level, rather than being focused on the relationship elevator that says that you must constantly find someone to progress to the “next level” with until you finally get to marriage and children.
All of my relationships are different from each other. Although I have 2 life partners, the way that they interact with me and the role that they each play in my life is very different. Letting each relationship be what it actually is and…
