Do Condoms Make You Go Soft? I’m Here to Help!

How to prevent and alleviate situational erectile dysfunction — condom related, or otherwise

Ena Dahl
Sensual: An Erotic Life
9 min readMar 15, 2022

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Julia Kuzenkov via Pexels (cropped by author)

Did you or your partner ever temporarily lose erection while fumbling to put on a condom? Perhaps you’d built anticipation to have sex for days and then it just wouldn’t work. Did the fantasy of a lifetime unfold in front of your eyes, but then Jimmy refused to rise to the occasion?

Sure, it’s a downer (…). But, let me tell you something, in case you didn’t know, it happens to the best of them.

My story about the condom refuter has provided endless inspiration for continued content, and one of many issues it has prompted me to address is the excuse, condoms make me go soft.

While a lame and manipulative line to drop ahead of a casual encounter, it doesn’t necessarily make it any less true. For some, even the crackly sound of a wrapper will cause Junior to waver in an instance.

Situation erectile dysfunction can have a multitude of causes, ranging from nervousness and performance anxiety to stress, fatigue, or a few too many drinks. Common for all, unless substance-induced, is that it tends to be psychogenic. Further, it either has or will happen to nearly every proud penis owner, at some point(s) or another.

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Ena Dahl
Sensual: An Erotic Life

Multidisciplinary creatrix; conscious kink & sensuality coach, educator, author, energy worker & rope (s)witch.