Don’t Be a Creep: Follow These Simple Rules

It’s all about respect, not about looks

Elle Beau ❇︎
Sensual: An Erotic Life

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A few days ago, I got a Facebook friend request from a guy who is friends with someone I went to high school with. For a minute I thought he was another former classmate, but then decided that probably wasn’t the case since we only had one friend in common. He was a very nice-looking guy, but something about it just felt off. I waited for several days before finally deciding to accept his invitation, mostly because I didn’t want to snub somebody that I potentially did know slightly.

Big mistake!

A few minutes later there was a message in my inbox. “Hello, dear, how are you doing today?”

I immediately unfriended him and kicked myself for not paying better attention to my gut instincts. This guy was hot. He was also a creep.

I’m approaching 60, and I still get these kinds of come-ons all the time. Most women do.

I am not his “dear” — I don’t even know him. I do not want to engage in lame chit-chat on Facebook with some rando who is clearly trying to pick me up. Honestly, does that ever work for anyone? The implied assumption that I’m just here in the world waiting for this guy (or any guy) to try to chat me up using inappropriate familiarity is top-level creepitude.

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Elle Beau ❇︎
Sensual: An Erotic Life

Social scientist dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. "Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge." ~ Carl Jung