For a Whole Week, the First Thing I Saw in the Morning Was a Dick Pic
Flure Bunny shares stories from dating apps
Hey, loves! Flure Bunny here, bringing you fresh stories on diverse paths of modern dating, the highs and the lows included, that dating apps’ users anonymously share. And today I have the one that struck me again as a reminder that despite the allure of modern dating apps, they can also be a breeding ground for toxic behavior.
A Penis Says Hello
Meet Jackie, who, like many women, has delved into the world of online dating with mixed emotions. With a whopping 7–10 dating apps on her smartphone, Jackie’s journey has been a rollercoaster of experiences. Some of these tales are amusing anecdotes to share over drinks, while others — like the dreaded onslaught of unsolicited intimate photos — are chilling reminders of the challenges women face in this realm.
Once upon a virtual encounter, Jackie stumbled upon a profile that seemed promising — a potential connection, finally! But what started as a glimmer of hope quickly descended into a barrage of discomfort. The chat began not with a friendly greeting, but with a crude photo, the kind that should never grace anyone’s screen without consent. A picture that was less about introduction and more about shock value. A penis.
A Week Packed with Unwanted Dick Pics
Jackie had seen her fair share of shockers on dating apps, but this time, she decided to embark on an experiment that would uncover the extent of such behavior. Instead of hastily hitting the block button, she initiated a conversation, candidly explaining that such messages were offensive, disrespectful, and unwelcome. What followed was a week-long exchange that left her appalled.
Each morning, her smartphone chimed with a new message notification from her “match”. And every time, her hopes for rational conversation were crushed anew as his messages arrived with fresh photos of his most private anatomy. Despite her assertive “no,” he persisted with a belief that somewhere within her “no” was a secret “yes.” The cycle of harassment was a vivid illustration of the daunting reality that some men perceive refusal as a challenge to be overcome, rather than a boundary to be respected.
Is No Really a No?
Why is it that certain individuals fail to comprehend the power of consent? This question often echoes in the minds of women navigating the digital dating landscape. There’s an unsettling misconception that women secretly enjoy receiving unsolicited intimate images from complete strangers. But I’m sure nobody wants to be bombarded by unsolicited, explicit images. The truth is that no one finds enjoyment or fascination in seeing an unfamiliar male organ flash across their screen.
As Flure Bunny, I’m here to share these stories, not to spread negativity, but to highlight the pressing need for change. The collective experiences of women like Jackie expose the cracks in our online dating culture — cracks that have long been ignored. So tell me, why are dick pics so common in dating apps? What stands behind the need to share your penis, no matter the response?
