How Do You Share Your Polyamorous Heart?

Conversations at lunch get interesting sometimes at my job.

Demeter V Delune
Sensual: An Erotic Life

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“I think I’d be okay with him getting something he needed elsewhere, you know, just going to hook-up with someone else. It’s the idea that there could be emotion involved that I don’t think I could handle.”

It never fails to happen, even if people have no idea that I’m an intimacy/relationship coach.

Something in my face or demeanor just screams “tell me your life story” and eventually, people around me just start pouring out their stories to me. Yesterday, at the end of my lunch hour, one of my newer co-workers, T, began asking me how my husband and I ended up becoming polyamorous.

I hear quotes almost exactly like that one a lot, honestly, more often than an explicit, “I could never do what you do.”

What is it about love versus lust that terrifies people so much about polyamory? Because believe me when I say, it’s not the sex involved that makes most people shy away from becoming less than monogamous, it’s the potential emotion.

I know, because it’s what scared the daylights out of me, too.

What if my partner fell in love with someone we became involved with? But the real question wasn’t that so much as, what if he or she…

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Demeter V Delune
Sensual: An Erotic Life

S*x educator, Freelance Writer for hire, Journalist. Words in Passionfruit, Pleaser, MamaMia, Giddy, Petit Mort, Daily Dot, Your Tango| demeterdelune.com