Motherhood Changed the Way I Do Sex Work
As a mother, I became more compassionate toward my clients — and also more sexual.
Becoming a mother changes everything in a woman’s life. It changes how she interacts with other people. It changes how she interacts with herself. It changes her sexuality for the good or the bad. So, of course, motherhood would have a bearing on how I do sex work — only probably not in the way you might expect.
Yes, I became more nurturing of my clients after becoming a mother. But I also became more sexual.
I was less interested in my clients’ pleasure before I became a mother.
Before I settled down and had children, I was a jet-setting dominatrix. I didn’t have a care in the world. I came and went as I pleased and was having the time of my life.
In that era, I engaged in a lot of heavy BDSM play as a domme. Partly, this meant doing whatever I wanted to my clients in session. No, I never engaged in any activities that weren’t expressly agreed on beforehand. However, as I was domming exclusively at that point, I’d say I was a very cruel domme.
I would frequently carry out torture sessions where I whipped and paddled my clients until their skin bruised, pierced their…
