National Kink Month: How to Properly Treat and Care For a Submissive
Being a good dominant means more than giving orders and cracking a whip
Being in the Dominant role is one of the hardest in the BDSM world. It’s well worth all the effort to see a submissive look into your eyes while they’re in subspace, knowing you helped get them there. One of the first things a good Dominant learns is, they are not the one in control.
The lioness is not submissive, she merely lets you be king for as long as it pleases her. — Unknown
In a D/s relationship (Dominant/submissive) the Dominant partner does not control the submissive partner. They have been given control of.
There’s a difference.
As the Dominant, you’ve been given a gift. A submissive partner has decided you are worthy of their trust, and has given you the power.
Without earning the trust of your submissive partner, you have no power. BDSM is about a power exchange. Once you, as the Dominant, have earned the trust of a submissive, you are being given the power of control of, whatever you’ve contracted ahead of time with your submissive partner.
There’s a difference between controlling someone and being given control of. One is narcissistic in nature…
