Science Explains Why Women Don’t Want to Have Sex When The Kitchen Is Messy

It’s probably not what you think

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“The dirty dishes and our sex life are related!” I yowl for what feels like the 10,000th time.

My partner is getting frisky in the kitchen after a lovely home-cooked meal and a glass — ok, two glasses — of wine. It’s been a long week and I’m tired. I’m also…




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Danielle Loewen

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she/her | reader | queer feminist | recovering academic | body lover | gamer | poet & fabulist

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