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Sensual Highlights for the Week of September 18, 2022

Less than two weeks remain for the writing challenge

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The deadline for the September writing prompt is Saturday, October 1, 2022. At that time, Sensual will select some of the best submissions of either poetry or essays to feature in the October 2nd Newsletter. We would love to hear from you on the topic of a memorable erotic experience — memorable in either a positive way or even because it didn’t go as planned.

This could be a date, a relationship, a time you tried something new in bed, or anything at all that is related to sex, sexuality, and erotic relationships. It can be funny, reflective, poignant, or just sharing an experience. We’ve gotten a few great submissions already, so don’t forget to check those out.

We look forward to seeing what you have to share. Please add the kicker Memorable if you wish to participate.

Here at Sensual, we appreciate when one person’s writing sparks something similar for other writers because it adds to the community feel of the publication. This week three women wrote about their experiences with men feeling entitled to sexual contact simply because they’d had it with them in the past. An additional story talked about date rape. These essays sparked some important conversations about active consent, body autonomy, and societal norms — all things that Sensual views as important for a sex-positive world. The subject matter may not be light or flirty, but these are important essays. Check them out, as well as the other fine offerings on our main Sensual page.


Essays 🧠

Even If I Make You Hard, Your Erection Is Not My Responsibility by Sarene B. Arias
Amir was texting because he was in the neighborhood. He had an hour free, and he wanted to meet up for sex. As a sex-positive woman, I respect this desire. I love that he feels safe with me to share it. What I don’t love is the implication that simply because he is hard, he is entitled to put his hard penis inside of me. The fact that he has done so in the past is irrelevant.

I Feel Both Aroused and Enraged When Men Beg for Sex by Emme Witt
I describe these two separate instances because I want to show you how hot it can be when a man begs you to pleasure him and you’ve consented to it, and how infuriating it can feel when you haven’t. The lack of respect for your time and needs can move you to rage. It certainly has for me.

I’m Tired of Being Your Yes Woman by Demeter Delune
Since he couldn’t be open about us, our communication became hurried and shameful. We no longer talked as much. They had children and between their relationship and the busy life of being new parents, and his military career, our communication dwindled to nothing.

A year would go by without me hearing a word from him. Then I would get an email with a couple of lines of, I miss you, I love you, I need a pick-me-up, send me a picture. Of course, I would. Then months, then years, rinse, repeat.

I’ll Never Forget the First Time I Had Sex by Autumn Seave
I don’t remember leaving. I do remember being in his car. I might remember making out with him outside the bar.

I definitely remember parking outside the house where I was house sitting and trying to go inside; him pulling me back in the car; his hand in my jeans; telling him I didn’t want to have sex.



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Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau