Sometimes, a New Toy is All You Need to Spice Things Up

A thrusting butt plug helped bring back the excitement.

Demeter deLune
Dec 2, 2020 · 4 min read

his pandemic and subsequent shelter-in place orders have really put a damper on people’s sex lives. What, you say? Being home together all the time doesn’t mean more sex? Not necessarily. Although getting to spend more time with my husband is a perk I’m happy to have, we’re not the only ones home all the time. The kids don’t spend the evening away from the house as often as they once did. And quite frankly, I’m ready for them to go somewhere!

On top of all that, most people are finding their stress, anxiety, and even depression levels are off the charts. It’s been nine months of this strange year already we’ve been in a kind of lockdown and most of us are over it.

My husband and I are always on the hunt for new and exciting toys to spice up our sex life. We have a lot of fun together, and toys just make it even better. Amazingly, we didn’t own an actual butt plug until recently. We have prostate toys, dildos, and vibrating items, but somehow, we didn’t own the ultimate in booty fun.

I was recently given a thrusting butt plug to test and was excited to give it a shot. It’s about 5 inches long total, and 1.5 inches in diameter at the thickest point. What I like the most about it, besides coming with a remote, is the ergonomic handle on the bottom. It serves a dual purpose, not only does it keep the toy from going further than you want, it also makes it easier to grasp.

We also recently acquired the suction cup adapter for our Hismith Sex Machine, so we wanted to try that too! Why not enjoy a little double penetration? The machine is a bit of a pain to get set up (angle wise) for DP, but we finally got it worked out. It would probably be a lot easier if I was using the machine for anal, but I would much rather have my husband there, so some fiddling was required.

There’s nothing hotter, for me, than to start out receiving oral, especially when getting ready for some anal fun. He can tease and prep me while I’m having orgasms. I’ll never complain about that!

At this point, we decided trying out our new toy would be fun. A bit of water-based lube, and couple of orgasms later, the toy was fully inserted. After I got used to the fullness, we turned the vibrations on and the thrusting. I’ll admit, I really couldn’t tell much difference when the thrusting was off or on. It doesn’t have a long thrust mechanism, maybe half an inch? It’s still a fantastic feeling of fullness, just didn’t do exactly what I thought it would.

I think the squirting orgasms from oral got my husband hot and bothered because he was ready to play.

Sex with a butt plug in is intense. I’m a big fan of feeling full, so more squirting orgasms were on the horizon. We’d been at this for over an hour at this point, and if I wanted to try DP with our machine and hubby, it was time to get to it.

We figured out doggy style was the best option, with my butt pressed down towards the bed. This way, I could use the machine for my pussy, and hubby could modify his usual position on both knees (by putting one foot on the bed and remaining on his other knee) to get where he wanted to be. I can tell you, it’s not as easy as just turning on the machine and getting down to business. Similar to DP with two partners, you have to alternate thrusts or you’re going to be pushed out.

Overall, it was one of the most intense sessions of play we’ve had in a while. We took our time and enjoyed one another in a way we’ve not been able to in a couple of months. It’s one huge perk of testing sex toys, we try to set aside a few hours when we can to try new things and see what works.

During this stressful time in our world, it’s important to take time for ourselves and our partners. Quality time is vital. Quantity is something we may not be able to control right now, but when we take the time to make it something special, we open up a whole new world.

Are there any toys that you’ve been thinking about trying?

What do you do to spice things up when you find you are getting into a sex rut?

Please feel free to answer in the comments or to write your own story.

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