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Taking The Lead in The Bedroom Was a Game Changer For Me
Being in control when I feel like it opened up a whole new world for me
Having been a Professional Dominatrix for almost 20 years, you would think I’m used to being in control in the bedroom. But you’d be mistaken. I’m a true switch, who leans more towards submission than domination in my personal relationships. Being a Dominatrix is work. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy it, but it’s like putting on a uniform that I can take off once my day is finished.
Outside of work, in my romantic relationships, I lean a lot more towards being submissive in bed. I like being dominated by the right person, but didn’t even feel the need for that on a consistent basis. Until a few years ago, when I delved even further into the world of BDSM and began to realize my sex life was a lot more fulfilling when elements of D/s were present.
I just wasn’t sure which I wanted or needed to be, so I played both sides.
For me, where I land on the spectrum of D/s depends on my mood and my partner. My husband never seemed very submissive, so I tended towards allowing him to dominate when we added BDSM to our repertoire. But as time went forward, and we communicated more about our fantasies and desires, I realized he did have a submissive streak, although…
