The Beginners Guide to Fisting

It’s National Kink Month, let’s explore without shame.

Demeter V Delune
Sensual: An Erotic Life
4 min readOct 29, 2024

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Photo by Clay Banks on Unsplash

Pornography would have you believe women who enjoy being fisted are twisted. Society is no better when it comes to shaming women for what they desire. Search for fisting on your favorite porn app and tell me what you notice. I promise, it isn’t a guide to fisting you should be following.

Almost every video remarks about the looseness of the woman’s vagina.

I presume there’s a market out there for men degrading women’s bodies, while enjoying the rise they get from it. As a woman who’s given birth and had her fair share of sexual partners, I can tell you, loose isn’t something you should be concerned with.

The vagina is an amazing thing.

We can give natural birth to an eight pound human being and go right back to normal. So what in the hell makes people think a hand or large toy is going to wreck it for life?

Marketing, I guess.

Fisting isn’t something you enter into lightly. It can be one of the most intense experiences you’ve ever had; or it can be painful and horrific. If the latter is your thing, I empower you to embrace it. But this girl isn’t into that kind of pain, so planning and communication is important. I’m guessing it…

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Sensual: An Erotic Life
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Demeter V Delune
Demeter V Delune

Written by Demeter V Delune

S*x educator, Freelance Writer for hire, Journalist. Words in Passionfruit, Pleaser, MamaMia, Giddy, Petit Mort, Daily Dot, Your Tango| demeterdelune.com

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