The Real Reasons Women Are So Reluctant to Have Casual Sex With You

Even when we really want to

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Some years ago in a stranger’s bathroom, I had a sudden moment of clarity.

It was an otherwise delightful night out on the town. The pints were flowing and the dance floor was pumping. I’d tagged along with friends, but the music called, and I quickly gravitated towards another…




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Danielle Loewen

Danielle Loewen

she/her | reader | queer feminist | recovering academic | body lover | gamer | poet & fabulist

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