What Non-monogamy Has Taught Me About Love

A lot of the old rhetoric isn’t true or actually very loving

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“What do you think of this guy,” my partner James asked as the image of a handsome stranger appeared in my text messages. We’re getting ready to go on vacation in a few days, and part of the trip will be to Amsterdam, where sex work is legal.




We publish essays, and poetry about sex, sexuality and erotic relationships.

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Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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