Sensuality Awakening Goddess Mature
Why 50-year old goddesses are irresistible?
…and why so many of them struggle to find good partners?
Since my wife and I decided to explore intimate connections beyond our primary relationship, I realized that most women I felt attracted to were mature (50+), beautiful, independent, self-conscious, open-hearted women.
There is something about them that I find irresistible and that younger women lack. They radiate something deeply instinctive and soulful that just makes me vibe hard.
As if they can read me inside out in a blink of an eye.
As if they can smell my soul.
The connection with those women was instantaneous and powerful. They touched my body, opened my heart, and shook my soul. They awakened a raw and wild desire within.
Unfortunately, most of them were single and looking for long-term, exclusive partnerships. I am in my early forties, well-established in my primary relationship, authorized to explore connections but not able to offer a stable, exclusive partnership. I can explore the potential of a connection within the framework of an ethical non-monogamous relationship.
However, those connections made me wonder…where does that powerful attraction come from?
Each of those women was wonderfully unique but somehow all of them, in their own ways, were embodying certain similar qualities.
I call them the qualities of the awakened goddess.
So, what are the qualities of the awakened goddess?
(disclaimer: this is obviously only based on my limited sample of experience and will inevitably carry some clichés. I very much welcome your thoughts and perspectives in the comments)
- She became her own hero
The awakened goddess had the courage, at some point in her life, to quit whatever was holding her back, be it a job, a man, or social circles, and followed the callings of her heart. She went through difficult divorce or breakups, had to make the best out of life on her own, often while raising a child as a single mum.
When the world let her down, she kept picking herself up, over and over, and became stronger in the process. She transformed challenging situations into opportunities for personal learning and growth. She invested in herself as a woman, read books, took courses, headed to retreats, worked with coaches and mentors. Throughout the learning process, she got to know herself well and became wildly free-spirited.
She might desire a man for a deep meaningful relationship but does not need a man to feel complete and live a fully satisfying life on her own.
Bottom-line, she has experience in life and relationships, is rooted in her power and does not need to be saved by a man! When I am in her presence, I sense a bravery, a fierce independent female spirit. I sense that she has gone dirty and sweaty with her bare hands while making a life of her own. There is a kind of feminine sovereignty that I find incredibly hot.
2. She has done her healing work
The awakened goddess has gone through multiple cycles of therapy and has done a lot of personal inquiry. She has fearlessly embraced and welcomed her shadows, her inevitable guilt, shame, grief, loneliness,…she dragged those demons out of her subconscious dark cave and put them in the daylight, to be seen, to be embraced, to be healed.
This means that she understands herself and the world at a deeper level. She is more emotionally mature. She has learned to accept and love herself fully. She is here to thrive and not to live in the shadow of past mistakes and shame that was imposed on her by past failures or someone’s insecurities. She has clear boundaries and stands for what she believes in, while at the same time remaining very receptive and flexible to the opinions of others.
This self-awareness makes her an authentic, honest communicator. She has been around when it comes to human relationships and can quickly decode what a relationship is and is not. She is aware of what she wants and does not want. And she will be open, direct, and authentic about it.
I find this self-awareness and no-nonsense attitude terribly sexy. There is just no time or interest anymore for human drama in her life. When I am in her presence, I feel there is a primal strength blended with a deep tenderness and openness of heart which is incredibly powerful.
3. She is comfortable with her body and enjoys her sexual freedom
The awakened goddess does not need to prove herself to anyone and does not look for approval. She is comfortable in her own skin, at home in her body and knows and accepts all of herself. She embraced the fact that every curve, every wrinkle, every tiny “imperfection” makes her gorgeously herself and that makes her irresistible! She has thrown out all the “too much” and “too little” and “supposed to be” and is just bodyliciously herself.
Dressing how she wants, moving how she wants, flirting how she wants, owning her desires. Alive with passion and wild in every sense of the word. She has a way of knowing her way around the bedroom and enjoys intimacy much more than she may have in the past. This sexual liberation is in part because she has let go of her inhibitions, but also because she understands how to clearly communicate her desires and is receptive to understanding how to please her partner.
This mature wild feminine sensuality is magnetic. It is probably one of the most erotic things in the world. When I sense this energy, it feels like I am touching the source of the feminine or the female soul, which is exhilarating.
4. She is committed to the sacred
The awakened goddess is a sensitive soul and spiritually deeply connected to her higher self, the Divine or Nature. While traveling the roads less travelled, she evolved and became a natural space holder for herself and others.
She faced the fears of her ego and trusted that her soul was going to take her exactly where she needed to be. Through her spiritual journey, she connected to her incredibly powerful heart, learned how to love unconditionally and how to create strong, healthy relationships based on genuine connection.
She has a deep commitment to following her sacred purpose and is looking to be of service in some form. She has a thirst for higher knowledge and offers her intuition and wisdom with compassion to guide and support the well-being of others.
In my opinion, she is an alchemist and a healer. If her partner has the courage to open and become truly intimate with her, she will show him what love, grief, and acceptance can transform into. But that requires lots of courage from the partner!
Okay, I think you got my point by now. I am seriously attracted by the awakened goddess 😊
But one thing is particularly striking and intriguing…
Why do so many of these mature independent conscious women struggle to find the right partner?
I mean, I get it. Those precious women do not want and should not settle for less.
When you are an independent, gorgeous, emotionally mature, sexually free, and spiritually awake woman you are looking for a handsome, educated, conscious, caring, independent, fun, emotionally mature and available partner, right?
That makes perfect sense.
You just want to have a good time, and not compromise too much on your hard-earned freedom, space, and pleasures. Your time is precious, and you have standards, right?
So why is finding a partner so hard?
Why do I continuously hear those disappointing stories?
You start a relationship with a potential partner, it looks promising… and then they turn out to have imperfections, fears, and an injured heart. They turn out to be emotionally immature or unavailable. They turn out to be too clingy, too needy, too avoidant, or too detached. Too jealous and possessive? Too rigid and not flexible enough? Not ambitious enough? Not confident enough? Not affectionate enough?…the list goes on…
Too often, the relationship is then discarded in the hopes of finding a more idealized one.
I find this intriguing.
I am told that we manifest and attract what we desire most.
So, where are those spiritually awake and emotionally available Gods that will be able to meet the awakened Goddesses? Where are those spiritual warriors of the heart?
Unfortunately, I don’t have the answer.
I believe in the mystery of Love as a powerful transformational force. I believe that Love comes knocking at our door at the most improbable moments, and when it does, inevitably there is a part of our old selves that need to die (again) to become anew.
Relationships are about growing up and waking up together. It is a messy process but somehow essential to develop true and lasting relationships.
So, is it worth the wait?
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