Women Want To Be Desired
They just don’t want to be objectified or taken for granted
The sexiest thing in the world for me is the feeling of being truly desired. It turns me on like nothing else can — the idea that an admirer or lover just can’t keep their eyes or their hands off of me is intoxicating. Apparently, I’m not alone in this. There is a growing body of research that indicates this is actually quite typical for women.
“Marta Meana, a researcher at the University of Nevada, has argued provocatively that the organizing principle of female sexuality is the desire to be desired. Female desire, according to Meana, is activated when a woman feels overwhelmingly desired, not rationally considered. Female erotic literature, including all those shades of gray, is built on this fantasy. Sexual desire in this view does not work according to our expectations and social values. Desire seeks the path of desire, not the path of righteousness. It thrives not on social order but on its negation. This is one reason all religions and societies try to control, contain, limit and re-direct it.”
For most of patriarchal history, women were considered to be distressingly carnal — a constant temptation to men who were thought to be much more rational and moderate. It’s a relatively recent belief that men are more sexual than women, or that they are…
