Women Who Feel Safe are a Lot Less Inhibited
What the rest of the world could learn about consent from a sex club
Every major city has a couple of them. Most minor cities have at least one…. A swinger’s bar, a sex club, a “lifestyle” venue. Depending on the place, these may be anything from BDSM playspaces to something more along the lines of a hang-out for like-minded souls to gather. We haven’t been to one for some time, but a while back we used to frequent such a club on a fairly regular basis. It was mostly a dance club but did have a stripper pole and a St. Andrew’s Cross off to one side of the dance floor, although neither was used very often.
When we first started going to the club, we didn’t really know what to expect. Was there going to be a lot of hooking up and sex in public or was it going to be more low-key? We later learned that different clubs have different vibes and that this may even vary from night to night, with a typical Friday night crowd being fairly different from a typical Saturday night crowd. But what they all seem to have in common is an ethos of “women are in charge when it comes to anything to do with their bodies.”
On our first trip, we were met by a greeter (definitely not the Walmart variety) whose job it was to explain things to all newbies and make us feel welcome. She showed us…
