What does it really mean to be a man today?
It’s a simple question with a not-so-simple answer.
Let’s start our journey by looking at where we men came from.
Based on research by David Gilmore’s book Manhood in the Making, men all over the globe share the same three principles. They’re grounded in evolution and the history of mankind:
A man has to protect his loved ones and the ones dependent on him. In ancient times, this meant defending the tribe from any threats, such as being raided by other tribes.
Not only was it the man’s duty to protect the tribe, but also to provide. In hunter-gatherer societies, women foraged reliable food sources like plants, while it was the men’s job to hunt down big and dangerous, but energy-dense prey.
Men had to initiate courtship and seduce women. They had to display specific criteria suggesting they were strong and healthy mating partners. In turn, they could pass on their own DNA, create as much healthy offspring as possible, and ensure the survival of their species.
In the western world, our society is so well-off we don’t need strong protectors and skilled providers anymore. We don’t need to have tons of children so at least one or two of them get through and ensure the survival of our species.
The 3Ps become less and less relevant, which leaves men with a vacuum to be filled and an excess of masculine energy.
Men developed to protect, provide, and procreate. All of a sudden, the need for these basic purposes is gone, and with them the opportunity to use their inherent masculine energy.
In essence, we need a 4th P — but what could that be?