Discovering New Passions

Almost everyone gets to a place in life where they feel like a piece is missing. They may seem to have everything they need but with something just not fully clicking. You may feel bored by doing the things you normally do, or do every single day.

You go to work, you go to the gym, you come home, you watch movies, and you play with the kids if you have them. While life is good, you just feel the need to find that thing that’s missing. It’s possible that you haven’t allowed yourself to fully discover your passions.

The problem is, often we are held back by society regarding finding a new passion. But the truth is, life isn’t supposed to be all about doing what is expected of us. Doing the right thing is great but not if you are missing out on a new passion that could bring light back to your eyes, energy in your step, and love to your heart.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

We all have the same five needs. You’ve probably heard about this in school but let’s talk a little bit about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

Essentially this is often demonstrated and shown on a triangle with the bottom and largest part being the thing you need most, then moving upwards to things that you also need but can’t have without fulfilling the needs below in the right order.

Starting with the top of the triangle, we will list these needs in order of least to most needed.

· Self-Actualization — This essentially means that everyone, assuming all other needs below are being met, will eventually start having a desire to be the best and the most that they can become as a human being in life.

· Esteem — Every human has within them the desire to have the respect of others, but they also want to be a good person with high self-esteem, a good status in their community. This also includes recognition for good deeds, and the freedom to do what you want to do.

· Love and Belonging — Humans also need to have love, family, and connection to other human beings. They need intimacy with other humans in all the ways that it can be had, from parenting to having a lover and everything in between.

· Safety Needs — You need to be secure and have decent employment or means of income, so that you can have resources and pay attention to your health and buy a home.

· Physiological Needs — Of course, the most basic needs must be met before anyone can move on to the other needs above. If you have no air, water, food, or shelter, you can’t also pay attention to other needs higher up the triangle.

When you seek to find your passion, you’re likely working on the esteem and self-actualization levels of the five needs. Sometimes, depending on what we want to do, we are fearful that our search for our passion will wind up harming us and taking away some of our needs. However, you cannot find your passion or make any changes in your life without some risk. Having said that, most of the time you can mitigate the risk by researching and making changes slowly.

11 Tips to Help You Find New Passions

With all of that in mind, let’s look at some tips that will help you find a new passion. For some people it can take extra time to discover it. After all, it may be something you’ve never heard of or tried yet.

You won’t know until you start making it your job to try new things. For example, if you’ve never gone to a yoga class you may not even know that someday you will own your own yoga studio and be one of the most sought-after practice instructors that exists. You never know.

1. Journal — When you write in your journal, try using part of a page to write down things you’ve discovered. For example, find a couple pages in the back. Label one page “dislikes” and one page “likes” (or “hate” and “love”, whatever you want to do). Write it down and then as you discover things you dislike doing, add them to the list, and the same for things you like doing.

2. Meditate — It can help to empty your mind for a portion of your day. You can do this with meditation or you can do it with prayer. Do whichever one you’re comfortable with doing (or both). When you meditate, you need to empty your mind and not think of things that are bothering you. When you pray, don’t ask for things — instead be thankful for things.

3. Imagine and Visualize — When you hit on something you believe you’ll love doing, take some time to think about it. Imagine it and visualize it. How does it look? How does it feel? For some people, making a vision board is helpful. For others, just laying down, closing their eyes and thinking is good enough to get the feelings right.

4. Try New Things — Set up your calendar so that you can try new things. If you’ve always wanted to try ballroom dancing, do it. If you’ve always wanted to take voice lessons, do it. If you’ve always wanted to travel, find a way to do it, even if it’s not perfect. Jump in and do something so that you can figure out your likes and dislikes. For example, if you think you’d like living on a homestead, go vacation on one. There are lots of people who take on workers and will help you learn.

5. Research — Make a list of the different things that interest you. Then take one thing at a time and dive deep into researching it. Join groups of those who are already passionate about it. When you get to know the other types of people who find passion in the same thing, you may decide you don’t like that thing after all or you may then realize it is your new passion too.

6. Ask the Right Questions — When was the last time you lost track of time during an activity? What were you doing? Is it something you can turn into a passion? For example, if you got lost in a movie, what was it about? If you got lost in a book, what was it about? If you got lost researching something online, what was that about?

7. It’s Not Usually Your Job — There are a lot of people online and offline who will try to convince you that your job should be your passion. Your grandfather probably told you to find something you love to do, and you’ll never work a day in your life. But was he doing that? Probably not. It goes back to the hierarchy of needs. You need money to live and that’s just a fact. Perhaps your job can pay for your passion?

8. What Are You Good at Doing? — Think about the things you’re naturally good at doing, even if it’s something you only tried once. Not everyone grows up in a household that allows them to discover their passion in fencing, for example. You may have to find out by accident that you’re good at something you tried.

9. What Are You Mediocre at Doing? — There may be things you love doing and feel passionate about to a point, but you’re not as good at doing it as you wish. Maybe you’re only mediocre? But you still really enjoy it. What if you spent some more time doing it to get better at it, could it turn into your passion then?

10. Start Fresh — Start trying new things. Make a list of things you want to try. If you see something that others are doing that you have a little interest in, give it a try. There could be something out there that is your passion that you haven’t tried yet.

11. It’s Not Magic — Finding your passion isn’t going to happen by magic. You’re also not going to feel a spark of intuition telling you this is it most of the time. But after some time you might find that you feel more content when you’re doing it.

Try these tips to help you find your passion. Remember, there may be things out there you could be doing that you never even heard of. Ten years from now your life might look nothing like it does today. You never know but if you feel the calling, just start trying things.

Seven Inspirational Activities to Help You Find Your Passion

Finding your passion is a process. You may have followed some form of process as a child to determine what you wanted to be when you grew up. You may have gone about it just the right way or not. It may or may not be going well for you. You could be in a situation where you make plenty of money but feel unfulfilled. You may be in a place where you are neither fulfilled emotionally and spiritually, or not making enough money. Each person is different. But the following activities can help you find your passion.

1. Travel More — Stop waiting for tomorrow. Travel to places you’ve never been. Most people only travel to see family. That’s wonderful. But you should also travel to see something new. Travel isn’t always about comfort either, so don’t feel as if you must spend a lot. Join travel communities and watch YouTube videos, and you can learn a lot of travel hacks that will help you incorporate this.

2. Meet More People — The more people you can meet and have conversations with and listen to, the more ideas you’ll be exposed to. This requires you to toss out any judgement or desire to debate and argue. Instead, turn your focus to hearing and listening to others talk about their lives, hopes, dreams and so forth. You may learn something new about yourself in the process.

3. Remember Your Childhood — Don’t forget about what you wanted to do and be as a child. You may have had some lofty ideas back then. Remember, what you chose now doesn’t have to be perfect. It will be more realistic based on your budget, but you can do something peripheral to what you thought as a child.

4. Make a Vision Board — Once you have some ideas, consider creating a vision board about your ideas and discoveries. You don’t have to have the answers. With a vision board you can try on different ideas.

5. Who Is Living Your Ideal Life? — Is there anyone out there that you feel is living your life? This doesn’t mean that you must feel jealous, but if you do that’s okay too. Those feelings can lead you to the right passions, as long as you’re willing to accept the possibility that you could be wrong and just jealous after you try it out. You need to try things yourself to see if you like them.

6. Do More of Things You Love — If you already love something, do more of it. One reason some people have trouble finding their passion is they think everything must be hard work. It might be, but it doesn’t have to be.

7. Read More Books — The more you can read about different people and different ideas, the more ideas you’re going to get. You may land on something you never knew that creates the passion for the rest of your life.

There is one clear point all these activities have in common. That is to expose yourself to more things and to remember the things you learned and thought in childhood before you were told about the responsibilities of adulthood. By doing so, you’re more likely to find your passion.

Paul Duxbury·
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