The Fourteen-Year Itch?

Why does it seem to be that right around the fourteenth year of marriage, life seems to hit a snag?

I speak from experience when I say that I have no idea! Perhaps we get bored with our lives and the grass seems to appear greener on the other side of the fence.

Maybe it’s the fact that most of us are facing middle age by that point. When we approach the dreaded “40” landmark, we start to see life as speeding up and passing us by.

We just aren’t the carefree teenagers we used to be. We can’t be the twenty-something party animals that used to be our identities. Our thirties were when we started our families and settled into the lives we dreamed of when we were in our teens and twenties. By the time we hit forty, the reality of children, jobs, mortgages, and car payments are our day to day realities.

Sex? What is that? Who has the time or energy for it anymore? If it does happen, it is rarely the hot, passionate love affair that it once was.

We tend to be much more confident about their sexual needs and desires than we were in our twenties and thirties. But who has the time to assert them?

So what happens? Resentment. Boredom. Monotony.

The fourteen-year itch.

So how do we scratch it?

What can we do to go back to the passion of our younger years?

Well most of the time we married our partner because we loved him or her. But is love truly the answer to scratching the itch?

Yes! Love is definitely the answer!

The Beatles said it best! “All you need is love!”

Love yourself! If you can do that, everything else is easy! Why is it so easy to love others, put it is almost painful to love ourselves? Maybe loving ourselves is the way to scratch that itch!

Remember forty is not fatal. The fourteen year itch does not have to be scratched. Maybe we just need to get past our own insecurities and individual crises. Some of buy a fast car. Some of us make dumb decisions. Some of us just walk through our monotonous lives like a zombie apocalypse has arrived. Most of us will grow and succeed in ways we never thought possible. We may even achieve one of life’s greatest goals: happiness!

If we can survive forty and the fourteen year itch, we can survive anything! The grass is never greener on the other side, but if we take care of our own lawns, they can be awfully green at home too!