The 5 Things Every BDSM Beginner Should Know in 2017

BDSM for Beginners

The term BDSM was coined in the early 1970’s representing a variety of sexual practices involving

dominance and submission, bondage, sadism, and masochism. The ‘BD’ in BDSM represents bondage

and discipline, the ‘DS’ representing dominance and submission and the ‘SM’ representing sadism and

masochism. BDSM involves plenty of non-normative sexual practices which entirely depend on the chemistry between the participants. Some of the popular BDSM practices are body modifications, crossdressing, animal playing or even includes latex aficionados.

Involving in sexual practices which are considered much different from the normal are often a good way to spice up your sex life. It can mean a healthy sex in your marriage, if and only if, you and your partner are both interested in exploring uncharted terrains.

Here are some tips for beginners in BDSM:

Communicate with your partner

It is absolutely necessary to communicate with your partner. Understand your partner’s needs and desires. You may be interested in a particular activity, but your partner might have interests in another. It always helps if you talk it through. Understanding and having a chemistry is the key to BDSM.

Participating without sufficient interest can ruin the experience.

Start humble

Take steps little by little. Start with trying out something different than the normal sex. As you get comfortable with those practices, ease into more complicated stuff. It could be a tad bit bothersome in the beginning, but as you try it more and more, it will start coming to you as a breeze.

Explore your fantasies

Not every sexual practice is everyone’s cup of tea. Think about what kind of practice will make you satisfied. See which one of it are you comfortable with. If this is something you are not able to figure out by yourself, then try practicing it with your partner very gently. Playing it to your fantasies will make the activity tenfold interesting.

Set boundaries for everything

It is very important to have boundaries for everything. During the heat of the moment, you never know what one might do to you or you might do to one. So, it is absolutely necessary to have boundaries set prior to your engagement in such activities. If you have a clear understanding of what activities are being performed and how far can they go, you will be able to enjoy the act rather than worry about other premonitions.

Trust your partner

It is absolutely must to trust your partner. Before getting into acts of BDSM, you must absolutely sure that your partner will not do something you haven’t mutually agreed upon. The trust element is the base of BDSM activities. Trust your partner and any type of sexual experience can be fun.


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