How Negativity Affects Your Relationship
Why your bad attitude is not just about you
Sometimes we just have a bad attitude; sometimes, for whatever reason, we just feel negative. Although we may think that our negativity is just about how we feel and it ultimately doesn’t affect anyone else, that couldn’t be further from the truth — so it’s important to be mindful of the fact that our negativity can have a negative impact on our romantic relationships. In order to get an idea of just how our negative attitudes can do this, I interviewed marriage counselor and sex therapist Andrew Aaron, LICSW.
“It creeps in like a fog where the beginning of it cannot even be found.”
How would you define negativity in a romantic relationship?
This is not a large and dramatic bad habit. Instead it is subtle, insidious, and can easily spread everywhere. Negative words, attitudes, choices slowly erode a loving connection. It occurs with the speed of grass growing and before a couple has become aware, they start to notice that they are not as close as they once were.
Life is filled with adversity, and this past year with the pandemic has had more than most. Life is hard and loving is challenging. Being human comes with the regular experience of suffering…
