Quickie: Suffering in Sexual Silence
Survey shows that many people are having bad sex, but not talking about it
Although 17 percent of sexually-active Americans report that they have been faking orgasms with their current partners — to the tune of about four times a month — they are suffering in silence about their dissatisfaction.
A survey of 2,000 people, which was conducted by sex tech company Lora DiCarlo, found that 53 percent of respondents wanted to talk to their partner about their lackluster sex life, but they didn’t want to offend them. Not surprisingly, this lack of communication has led to a huge disconnect. First, people who say they are faking orgasms themselves are convinced that their partners are sexually satisfied: In fact, 46 percent of respondents believe that their partner never fakes an orgasm with them. Others — 44 percent — who are more realistic realize that they’re not satisfying their partner, but they aren’t sure how to do it.
“Sex isn’t a one-sided event, open communication between partners leads to not only better sex, but inspires confidence and empowerment.”
According to Lora DiCarlo, the founder and CEO of the eponymous sex tech brand, this lack of communication isn’t…
