A Beginner’s Guide to Deep-Throating Your Man Like a Pro

Being good at oral sex is a skill. Deep-throating is one of the best skills of then all.

Sex With T.S.
Nov 9 · 6 min read

If you’re concerned about your oral sex skills, no worries, I’m here to help. Nothing is worse than having performance anxiety before you attempt to please your partner.

A good blow job consists of two things:

If you have an abundance of the first, you can learn the latter.

So if you’re looking to upgrade your oral sex skills, learning how to deep throat is an excellent place to start.

Deep-throating can result in an almost instant orgasm for many men and make you feel like an oral sex superstar.

This guide will have you deep-throating your man in no time.

If you don’t have a person to practice on, a banana or cucumber will do. You want to spend time getting your skills down and then developing your technique.

Step 1: Get Past Your Gag Reflex

Your gag reflex can be a problem when trying to deep throat. Your body is going to respond violently if you stick something too far in the back of your throat.

So, you’re going to have to practice relaxing those muscles if you’re going to ever successfully deep throat your partner.

1. Lubricate the Penis Well

A well-lubricated penis slides better than a non-lubricated one.

The most comfortable and most pleasurable way to do this is to suck on your partner’s penis for a minute or two until it is good and moist.

2. Align Your Throat and His Penis

Make sure you are in a comfortable position, and your throat and the penis are correctly aligned.

The best way to accomplish this is to have your guy lie on his back, and you lie on your stomach alongside him.

When you ben over him, you’re going to want to keep your neck as straight as possible, so his penis is pointing directly at the of your throat.

If that angle doesn’t work for you, you can have him stand, and you position yourself on your knees in from of him. This position gives you more control and makes aligning your throat and his penis much easier.

3. Slide the Penis Into Your Mouth Slowly

You can either do this yourself or have him slide his penis into your mouth.

You want to move slowly.

Very slowly.

You’re not trying to engage your gag reflex.

Continue to slide the penis into your mouth until you feel your gag reflex kick in. If your partner is the one doing the sliding, be sure to let him know that you’ve reached a point where you need him to stop, or you will gag.

4. Hold in Place

Hold his penis in position for as long as you again.

Once you feel like you can’t hold it anymore, let go and take a break.

Relax.

5. Repeat steps 1–4

You only become good at things when you practice. So keep at it until you’re only gagging if you want to, not because you can’t help it.

Also, Rome wasn’t built in a day; it may take you a few attempts to get over your gagging issues. I’m sure your boyfriend won’t mind that you want to have his penis in your mouth as often as possible.

You’ll notice that after each session, you’ll be able to hold his penis in place longer and longer until your gag reflex isn’t an issue at all.

However, don’t try to do this too many times in one day; this is something that you should do overtime.

Too many times in one day, you could make yourself sick and possibly cause you to vomit, and vomiting is definitely NOT sexy — so take your time.


Cheat Sheet: Use a Deep Throat Spray

If you’d like to skip the work and get right down to the no gagging, then using an oral sex spray is the option for you.

Oral sex sprays are often flavored numbing agents that, when sprayed, numb your throat muscles and make it super easy to perform oral sex or deep throat.

That’s it.

All of the skills.

None of the work.


Step 2: Deep-Throating

So now that you have the hard part down, it’s time to have some fun. Deep-Throating will be a deeply pleasurable experience for your man and an incredibly powerful one for you.

Nothing screams, “I’m that chick” more than having a man in the throes of pleasure moaning your name because of what you’re doing to him.

1. Start slowly

Slowly taking in as much of the penis as you can.

Going a little further each time so he really feels the difference of how deep you can go.

Each time you go down, hold the position for a little bit, increasing the time with every swallowing, building up the tension until you swallow him whole.

2. Suck and suck and suck some more

Suck and hold onto him with the pressure of your lips before quickly pulling off.

And repeat.

This move involves coming off him completely before going back to him, and changing the speed of this will make him feel good and ready for your next move.

3. Keep your neck and throat aligned

It’s the same rule when you were practicing getting past your gag reflex.

This will make the penis slide into your throat easier.

If you want to try a new position, try lying on the bed with your head hanging over the side.

This position can take some getting used to, but it is a great way to get the penis slide straight down your throat with relative ease.

Remember, movement of the tongue is more limited the deeper you go.

Don’t worry if you can’t move much with your tongue, but enjoy the movement you can make on the areas of his shaft you can reach and use the tongue to get the penis to slide down your throat.

4. Play with temperature changes

Add temperature changes by either softly blowing cool air or breathing on his penis. This can be something to do before you start deep throating, just around his shaft.

However, another way of exciting him is to go deeper as you keep your mouth as open as possible, breathing heavily as you move.

It works as the same vibrations would — so talking or humming would also work. The different shapes and noises you make with your mouth give various awesome feelings to your guy.

5. Use your lips like vise-grip

Whilst deep throating, clamp your lips around his base. And suck slowly as you retreat up towards his tip.

Also, don’t be afraid to mix up going deep with paying attention to his tip and other areas. As much as he may like you going deep, make a big deal about coming completely off him before you go down again.

You can do this by opening your mouth wide on the way down and then sucking tightly with your lips pressed against him and suck your lips all the way back up to the top.

It draws out the pleasure for him and gives you time to think about your next move and to relax your jaws.

6. Gulp

Gulp while you’re very deep.

Throat vibrations do a lot of good, and it will affect all of him because he is so far inside of you.

The penis is very sensitive, so each gulp will feel like vibrations going through his whole shaft. Controlled gagging is good here too for the same reasons

He’ll love you for it.

7. Breathe

It’s easy to forget you still need to take in air when you have a mouth full of penis.

The last thing you want to do is really gag on his penis while he’s so far down your throat.

Keep that air coming and going out to avert disaster.


Final Thoughts

There you have it.

Your ultimate guide to deep throating.

Follow the steps and practice (and practice some more), and you’ll be swallowing your guy whole in no time.

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