To love is a choice.
You choose to commit.
You choose to make it work.
Growing up is not a bad thing or a good thing; it just is.
Time goes by pretty fast.
If you’re 30 today, tomorrow you will be 40. If you’re 40 today, one day you wake up and you’re 60, wondering where the time went.
The only question is, do you want to live your life with someone else or do you want to keep going solo?
People are always running, dodging, hopping falling in love — and that’s the easy part — being adult enough and selfless enough to make it work is where the real work lies.
If you want to spend it with someone, then find someone, choose them, and commit.
If not, then keep doing what you’re doing.
I know a guy who was in his late fifties and he’d just had a birthday. I asked him what he did for his birthday, and he told me how he “hung out with the boys,” drunk some, smoked some, gambled and that was it.
Now, he was in some sort of managerial position at the university I used to attend. He didn’t have a wife or girlfriend (spent a lot of time trying to get into my pants, however). He had kids he didn’t live with and, aside from all his bravado, he actually seemed rather lonely.
Perhaps he enjoyed his life, but I’ll be honest I found him rather pathetic. Damn near sixty years old, still chasing young tail and clinging on to a youth that left him long ago.
For some being alone in old(er) age isn’t a big deal, but my guess is that it is a minority of people. We are social animals; we need each other to survive and be happy. If babies aren’t touched enough, they die and in many ways, if adults aren’t touched enough, we die, just a much slower and protracted death.
Make 2019 the year you stop being afraid of love, relationships, and commitment. Make time for family, friends, and others who you can love and who love you in return.
Now is the time to find a special someone to spend your life with.
We’ve got some hard times coming.
We’re going to need each other to get through them, so the next time you have an amazing someone, instead of finding reasons why you all shouldn’t be together, find ones why you all should be and hold on tight.