When it comes to sex, it’s the little things, the attention to detail that can take an average sexual encounter and turn it into an amazing one.
For me, this generally includes doing naughty things to non-obvious body parts. You know, fingers, toes, knees, and elbows — all those places people can forget to play with, in an effort to hit all the hot spots, and to hit them quickly
While fingers and toes are pretty obvious erogenous zones, when is the last time someone caressed the back of your knees or kissed your elbows?
How about tickled your knee caps and teased your spine?
Or licked your collar bone or nibbled on your hips?
When you look at female erogenous zones, there are a few surprises:
- Inner Thighs
- Back of the Knees
While I don’t think the neck, inner thighs or breasts are a surprise, who would have thought caressing the ribs or the navel would be a hot spot?
For male erogenous zones, there are fewer surprises, but some exciting locations nonetheless:
- Inner Thighs
- Glans Head
While many straight men eschew any anal play, it’s ridiculous for them to do so. The prostate is located near the anus, so it is a very sensitive (and pleasurable) place for men.
Unfortunately, too many straight men associate any sort of anal play with homosexuality.
Like I always say to my guy friends when anal play comes up: there is a difference between a sex act and sexual orientation. If it’s a woman doing the playing, then your sexuality is not in question.
Why miss out on a boatload of pleasure because of ignorance?
With that said, I think when people comment that the sex has gotten boring, it’s because they’ve forgotten:
- We’re three dimensional
- There are so many delicious pleasure centers on our oddly shaped and often amusing to look at bodies that if we took a little more time to hit these often-overlooked spots, I think most of us would be hard-pressed to find too many “boring” moments in bed.
In the end, let’s take a little time to appreciate the entirety of the human form. We are covered in 22 square feet of skin. There is plenty there to discover.
We should spend more time caressing and playing with these erogenous zones; spend more time getting to know each other’s bodies.
Ultimately, when it comes to having good sex, it’s not the destination that’s important, but the journey.