Just Because I Consent to One Type of Sex, Doesn’t Mean I’ve Consented to All Types of Sex

I swear some men aren’t happy until they’ve stuck it in every hole you have.

Sex With T.S.
Nov 21 · 3 min read
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Why is it men feel the need to stick their penis in every available orifice?

No, really?

Right now I’m just waiting for some guy to say to me:

“Hey baby, let me stick it in your ear.”

Let’s be clear, I’m not opposed to anal sex.

The times I’ve had anal sex I’ve enjoyed it a great deal. It’s just not something I engage in with casual sex partners.

Also, I’m opposed to the expectation of anal sex. Like, it should be a part of my normal sex routine and I’m some kind of prude if I don’t want to do it.

And let’s talk about what I like to call the Sneak and Poke or the act of “accidentally” trying to jam a penis in my butt without my permission. You’re a grown man, you know the difference between the vaginal opening and the anal one.

Consent is a thing.

Just because I consented to vaginal sex does not mean I gave you permission to enter my backdoor; to try that will cause an immediate end to all sexual activity and get you permanently barred from my body.

My current “friend” has been on this anal sex kick for a minute now.

He is determined to get in the backdoor.

Now, while said friend can possibly be classified as the best sex I’ve ever had — his oral sex game is phenomenal — he has jackhammer tendencies if you know what I mean.

So anytime he mentions anal sex, all I can think is, “OW.”

So the other night it comes up again.

Now mind you, this is after four shots of Gentleman’s Jack and one orgasm later (his not mine), and while we’re in the midst of me getting my orgasm he wants to know if he can…well you know.

And I’m like:


I don’t think he liked that too much.

And frankly, I don’t care.

Besides with the nasty side effects that are associated with anal sex, I don’t think it would have been a good idea then anyway with the loaded cheese fries and brownie sundae I’d had for dinner.

I’m just saying.

Anywho, sexual boundaries are a thing.

If he wants this arrangement to continue he’s going to have to learn to respect my boundaries. I don’t have anal sex with casual sex partners and it’s not up for discussion.

Them the rules and he can play by them or not.

I’ve long since learned that no orgasm is worth being with a man who doesn’t respect my body.

My body, my rules and I will kick anyone to the curb who refuses to accept that; phenomenal oral sex and all.

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