Stop Expecting Porn Star Sex from Everyday Women

No. You can’t ejaculate on my face. Stop asking.

Sex With T.S.
Nov 23 · 3 min read
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“Can I cum on your face?” he asked.

This question always makes me pause.

And I’m pissed that I have to pause. I mean, I’m right in the middle of heated, passionate, wild, wet and sloppy sex and you ask me this dumb shit right here.

Sigh.

Every time I’ve heard this question, I’ve paused and looked at dude like:

“What the fuck?”

And then I answer:

“No, but you can cum on my ass if you like.”

Seriously, what’s it with the men and their obsession with having their sperm spewed all over a chick’s face?

And to be fair, I would mind less (I still wouldn’t do it) if the question were asked before we were in the middle of sex. But to ask me in the middle of sexing strikes me as rude and presumptuous, especially since the times I’ve been asked it’s been a mere formality, most of these guys were generally shocked when I said no.

At least they asked, however.

I had one guy, who, at the moment of ejaculation whipped his penis out and aimed straight for my face, no questions asked. If I wasn’t so pissed it would have been amusing how I was ducking and diving trying to avoid his man juice from being all over my face.

In recent years casual sex partners have had no problem with making this request or other questions during sex that should be asked beforehand.

They ask, “Can I cum on your face,” as if it’s the most natural thing in the world, not an act mostly done to women who get paid to have cum spewed all over the faces for a living.

It’s not just the facials, however; it’s the assumption that yes to vaginal sex means yes to anal sex or the porn star blow jobs that involve someone grabbing the back of your head and trying to choke you with their dick.

No questions asked, or if asked done in the middle of the act — not the time for such requests.

And it really is a (relatively) recent phenomenon. When I was younger no casual sex partner ever asked this question. It might come up with someone I was in a serious relationship with but in a new relationship or a sex buddy?

Not so much.

I blame this new desire to constantly ejaculate on women’s faces on the spread of porn to the mainstream. It seems everyone fancies porn star sex when former porn stars like Jenna Jameson, Sasha Grey, and Karrine Steffans have become household names.

Since porn is no longer an underground phenomenon reserved for the back of video stores, seedy establishments, and brown paper bags it really muddles what type of sex acts we view as “normal” and it pushes the boundaries of acceptable sexual behavior in and out of bed.

So I guess many men fancy themselves the next James Deen, cum shots and all. Unfortunately asking to cum on my face — in the middle of sex no less — is just rude.

There’s something particularly degrading about the move — as if being in me wasn’t enough — you have to defile my person as well. You don’t want to just possess me, you want to degrade me and I’m not having.

And to be clear I’m not kink-shaming. If that’s your thing, by all means, enjoy. My frustration stems from the idea that this is just a run of the mill sex act that I should recognize as a foregone conclusion from a man whose last name I might not even know.

And here’s the thing, I’m actually down for some cum action: pearl necklaces., my boobs, my ass, belly, and my back are all places readily available for some ejaculate, just ask before we’re hot and heavy, sweating and moaning.

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